How To Reinvent Your Life Starting TODAY | The Mel Robbins Podcast

Reinvention

• Many questions are about reinvention and how to reinvent oneself.

• People want to imagine a brand new possibility for their lives.

• There is a flame inside them that is getting bigger and brighter.

• They need a map to chart a course to make that possibility a reality.

"I want you to imagine a brand new possibility for your life. There is a flame inside you and it is getting bigger and it is getting brighter. What kind of a map do you need in order to chart a course to make that possibility that you see for your life a reality?"

Introduction

• Mel Robbins introduces herself as a New York Times best-selling author and expert on motivation, change, and habits.

• She explains that she shares her expertise from her personal experiences of screwing up and then figuring out how to fix her own life.

• Mel expresses her excitement for the conversation and the episode that listeners have been asking for.

Listener Questions

• Mel mentions that she has been receiving many questions from listeners about reinvention, including one from a listener named Sarah.

• Sarah is 40 years old and has been in a toxic marriage for 11 years, laid off from a job she loved, and has gained weight.

• Sarah is unsure where to start and wants advice on how to make the second act of her life amazing.

"I don't even know where to start. I don't even know if I have ever been truly happy. I would love to hear your advice on this topic. I want the second act of my life to be amazing, help me Mel."

Starting Over vs. Starting from Experience

• Mel emphasizes that when starting a new chapter in life, it's important to understand that you are not starting over, but rather starting from experience.

• She explains that all the experiences, both good and bad, in one's life can be used to reinvent and reimagine the next chapter.

"Just because you got laid off, just because you've ended a relationship, you're not starting from scratch. You have all the experiences, good and bad, in your life that you can now use to reinvent and re-imagine what the next chapter of your life looks like."

The Road Trip Metaphor

• Mel introduces the metaphor of life as a road trip to understand the concept and process of reinvention.

• She wants life to be an exciting and exhilarating road trip.

• All individuals begin at mile marker zero and each year represents a milestone on the journey.

"Life is one big road trip and we're going to use this metaphor of a road trip to demystify the entire concept and process of reinventing yourself or reinventing your life."

Conclusion

• Mel concludes by stating that life is a journey filled with twists and turns.

• She wants to empower listeners to make their lives the most exciting and amazing road trip they can imagine.

"I want your life to be the most exciting, exhilarating, amazing road trip that you could possibly imagine."

Reinventing Your Life

• Reinvention is about taking control of your life and creating a map for the future.

• It involves choosing your own speed, route, and destination.

• By pulling over and reflecting on where you currently are, you can assess where you want to go next.

"Reinvention is all about creating a map, picking a destination, and charting your course on this road called life."

Taking a Pause

• Taking a moment to mentally pull over is essential to assess your current situation.

• It allows you to acknowledge any challenges or difficulties you are facing.

• By hitting the pause button, you can collect yourself and consider where you want to go next.

"By pulling over for just a second, you're acknowledging... where you're at right now and more importantly, where do you want to go next."

Dealing with Detours

• Life's challenges, such as a breakup or job loss, are detours on your life journey.

• While it's important to acknowledge and feel sad about these detours, you cannot stay in that place.

• Just like fixing a flat tire or getting back on track after an accident, you need to pick yourself up and move forward.

"You can't stay in that place... You have to fix the car and move forward."

Looking Forward

• Instead of dwelling on the past or looking backwards, focus on the road ahead.

• The windshield is much bigger than the rearview mirror for a reason.

• Cultivate the belief that the detour you're experiencing is preparing you for something better.

"Stop looking in the rearview mirror... You're not going backwards... The happiest, most fulfilled version of you is on the road ahead."

Moving Past Sadness

• While it's natural to feel sad after a breakup, it's important not to get stuck in that emotion.

• You have spent enough time lamenting what happened; it's time to redirect your focus.

• Shift your attitude and start looking at the road ahead with hope and excitement.

"You did the right thing by feeling sad... but now it's time for you to look out the windshield and look at the road ahead."

"Imagine if this detour that you've been forced to take is the best thing that ever happened to you."

How detours in life can lead to growth and purpose

• Every individual has a unique and personal journey in life.

• Believe that every detour is aligned with what is meant for you.

• Detours may not go according to plan and can be painful, but they can push you in the right direction and teach you valuable lessons.

• Embrace the detours and see how they align with your purpose and growth.

"Every detour in life that does not go according to plan is not what you wanted, but there have been detours in my life that have been painful, but I can see now how they were aligned with pushing me in the direction I needed to go, giving me the lessons that were aligned with my purpose or the things that I needed to learn in order to make the years ahead even better, even happier, even more purposeful."

Taking responsibility for navigating through detours in life

• Take responsibility for how you navigate through the detours.

• Telling yourself that detours open you up to something you needed instead of being a victim.

• Tap into your power by embracing the detour and making choices for what happens next.

"When you grab the wheel of your life, when you take responsibility not for the detour, but for how you're going to navigate what happens next, that's when you tap into your power."

Discovering self-love through the detour

• Use the detour as an opportunity to strengthen your relationship with yourself.

• The detour is teaching you to love and be in a relationship with yourself.

• The breakdown is giving you the opportunity to build a stronger connection with yourself.

"The one person that you need to truly love and truly be in a relationship with, your person, so to speak, you already found that person, and it's you."

Importance of Having a New Destination

• Going and time traveling about two years ahead gives you plenty of time to start working towards something new.

• Having a destination to look forward to creates excitement and energy in your life.

• It gives you a goal to work towards and creates momentum.

• Opening up to bigger dreams reshapes your outlook and attitude to be bigger and better.

"Having something out on the horizon that you're looking forward to, that you're working toward, it creates energy in your life."

The Disney effect

• Study shows that adding something meaningful to your schedule makes you feel like you have more time.

• People reported feeling more energized and engaged in all areas of their life.

"Your time feels less scarce."

Adding something meaningful

• Adding something you want to do, that is meaningful to you, can change your relationship with time.

• It makes you feel more in control of your life.

• It re-energizes you and spills over into all areas of your life.

"Time feels different. You feel more in control of your life."

The impact of rewarding activities

• Spending intentional time doing rewarding and engaging activities makes your time feel less scarce.

• It changes your whole narrative about your life and your power.

• Even though you're busy, it spills out into other areas of your life.

"Your time feels less scarce."

Dreaming big and taking action

• Start dreaming big right now to create an upward spiral in your life.

• Add something into your life that makes you excited.

• Get serious about your dreams and take action towards them.

"The best days of your life are ahead of you. You have to start dreaming big right now."

Free resources for dreaming bigger

• Two free podcast episodes: "Your Dreams Are Not a Joke" and "Toolkit for Setting Goals".

• Both are master classes that will help you dream bigger and get clear on what you want.

"You've got to start dreaming bigger."

Denise's Journey to Becoming a Voiceover Artist

• Denise had the dream of being a voiceover artist for 20 years.

• She felt like a part of her died each day at her nine-to-five job.

• Despite worrying about how others would feel, Denise decided she couldn't settle anymore.

• She set a goal to have a live voiceover ACX profile by June 13th.

• Although her profile didn't go live until August, she celebrated the steps she took.

• Denise received her second narration job and has more auditions and potential clients lined up.

• She plans to be a full-time thriving voiceover artist within a year.

"I'm a happier, more committed to my dreams person with infused energy, drive, and excitement. I know the best is yet to be."

Embracing Change and Overcoming Fear

• Living on autopilot is a life unlived and unfulfilled.

• Stop worrying about what others will think.

• You only get one life, so don't prevent yourself from turning it in a new direction.

• Remind yourself that the best years of your life are ahead.

• Take responsibility for your happiness and the direction of your life.

• Creating a new course for your life requires courage.

"Find the courage to create a new course for your life, find the courage to take the wheel and steer it in whatever direction your heart desires, and find the courage to enjoy it."

The Epic Road Trip of Life

• Life is like an epic road trip.

• The journey will eventually come to an end.

• Approach the final leg of the journey with courage.

• The final leg may come quicker than expected.

• Believe in your ability to create a better life.

• Enjoy the journey and embrace the unknown.

"This epic road trip that we call life is going to be over, and if what everybody who has approached that final leg of the journey says is true, it's going to happen for you and me in the blink of an eye."