Flirting Techniques: How To Use Push Pull

Push-Pull Technique

• The push-pull technique is a flirting technique used to show interest without putting pressure on the other person.

• It involves giving a compliment (pull) followed by a teasing remark or criticism (push).

• The goal is to create a back-and-forth dynamic that keeps the other person engaged.

"The push is the positive, and the pull is the negative."

The Purpose of Push-Pull

• The push-pull technique removes pressure from the other person.

• By incorporating both positive and negative elements, the focus is shifted away from the compliment.

• People tend to focus more on the negative or critical aspects, so this technique keeps the other person intrigued.

"If I tell you a bunch of positive things but also sprinkle in a negative, I guarantee you will think more about the negative than the positive."

Examples of Push-Pull

• An example of using push-pull is giving a compliment followed by a qualifier like "but..."

• Instead of saying, "You are beautiful," one could say, "You are beautiful, but it seems like you cause trouble."

"You are beautiful, but... [insert qualifier]"

Different Ways to Use Push-Pull

• Push-pull does not always have to be positive followed by negative.

• It can also be negative followed by positive or a combination of positive, negative, and positive.

• The key is to have a natural flow of conversation and adjust the technique based on the interaction.

"There should be a natural fluidity based on the conversation."

Incorporating Push-Pull into Conversations

• For those new to using push-pull, it is suggested to start with basic phrases and gradually incorporate more advanced techniques.

• Consistent practice and active engagement in conversations can help make push-pull become second nature.

"As you become more comfortable, incorporate these behaviors and mannerisms naturally in conversations."

The Art of Push-Pull

• Push-pull is about delivering a compliment and then unexpectedly challenging it.

• However, it should be done playfully and not in a way that seeks a response or puts excessive pressure on the other person.

"It should be playful, incorporating these teasing remarks."

Conclusion

• The push-pull technique is a powerful tool in flirting.

• It is important to apply it appropriately in interactions with others.

• Continued practice and refinement can lead to a natural incorporation of push-pull in conversations.